Our brains magically single out language from any other sound. They then port it to the right “department” in order to give it meaning. In fact they port it to two different departments of the brain – one that comprehends the meaning of the words, and the other that comprehends meaning through melody.
So while we used to think body language was everything when it came to conveying our point, we now know intonation and actual wording matters more. Communicating clearly when you speak is dependent on the words you say and the tone of your voice.
It is also dependent on a several other things. Here are a few tips we have compiled from leading research done in this field.
One of the most powerful elements to consider when thinking about speech is your facial expression. As researcher Andrew Newberg uncovers in his book “Words Can Change Your Brain”, the facial expressions we carry have a huge impact on how what we are saying is percieved. Note facial expressions are different than body language. He explains the results of one of his studies:
The symbol rated with the highest positive emotional content was the smiley face. The painting of the Mona Lisa is one particular example of that feeling of calmness.
Newberg adds:
The human brain can really only hold on to four things at a time, so if you go on and on for five or 10 minutes trying to argue a point, the person will only remember a very small part of that.
Instead, 30 seconds is the optimal amount for us to speak at any given time he says.
Adverbs are said to be one of the worst elements of speech and can even make a listener or reader lose trust. Writer Kim Peres explains:
Using single words to describe actions and objects quickly brings them to mind. When someone “stabs” a straw into their drink we see it, but “pokes swiftly” is not so clear. When a person “meanders” it is more accurate than “walking slowly.
Peres goes on to explain that “too much unnecessary text induces skipping.”
What we easily forget on a very high level is that using fewer words builds trust. So any words that don’t convey meaning can erode our readers’ and listeners’ interest.
According to journalist-turned-entrepreneur Evan Ratliff, starting questions with “who,” “what,” “where,” “when,” “how,” or “why” is likely to get a great response. To be avoided are “would,” “should,” “is,” “are,” and “do you think,” as they can limit how people respond to you a lot.
To give an example:
Good: “What would you do?”
Bad: “Would you do X?”
Terrible: “Would you do X or Y or Z or Q or M or W or … ?”
The last tip comes from Andrew Newberg again. His research suggests that negative arguments have an incredibly detrimental effect to our brain. We need to pay particular attention to not let them take over and ensure we use a 3-to-1 ratio of positive to negative coments.
He explains:
When you get into a dialogue with somebody to discuss any particular issue, a three-to-one ratio is a relatively good benchmark to think about; you wind up creating the opportunity for a more constructive dialogue and hopefully a better resolution.
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